Letter to my Grandchildren

by Chandroo D.

 

A wise man once advised me to one day write a letter to my young grandchildren, by which they can remember me by in time to come.  So here it is...

 

My dear Krsi, Meli, Navs, Kai & ILa,

 

Each one of you is a wonderful gift to our family.  Do remember this when you are ever sad and discouraged in your life time.  Rest assured, the family will always be around you, listen to you and support you in time of sorrow.

 

Respect your parents as without them, you would not be around in the first place. They have worked tediously to bring you up from the day you were born. They will always place you on a right path by teaching you the right from wrong, so do not go off track!  Obey their rules as these are always made from their past experiences when they were young. Their rules are made to protect you and never ever to harm or disgrace you.  You will, of course, realize this when you have your own children and make your own rules too one day.

 

It's alright to be disappointed some days, but you must never be bitter.  Bitterness is a mark of emotional imbalance.

 

Do not be afraid to face problems in life.  Problems will come and go as time goes by in your life.  Avoid being pessimistic. The worst thing in life is to say, “I would have; I could have; I should have”.  Take risks and learn from any mistakes made.  It will make you a better person.

 

Everyone in the world is just an ordinary person. Some of them are rich and lead an extravagant life and some poor who hardly make ends meet.  Do not let arrogant  persons overpower you.  Remember, deep inside they have the same fears and hopes; they eat, drink, burp and sleep like everyone else. Be wise and use your brains to question their actions or decisions, whenever necessary.

 

If you want to achieve success, you must fix a goal and everyday, draw at least one step closer to it.  Make a list of what you wish to achieve or do in your life. Complete the list gradually, as time goes by.  Do not leave the planning for tomorrow, next month or year!  That is the surest way of being a failure.  Start now!

 

Be kind and compassionate to all especially to the weak, fearful and children. Most carry sorrows and need your solace.  Participate in “pay it forward” scheme.  Do something nice for someone you don't know.  It should be something significant, and not for a person from whom you expect a good deed—or anything at all, for that matter—in return.  If the person thanks you and wants to "repay" you, let them know that what you'd really like is for them to pay it "forward" and help some one else.

 

Never shout with anger at anyone.  You are just harming your health.  Not only that, you will be a loser in the end of the argument.  Learn to explain patiently and compromise.

 

Never harm anyone.  Remember he or she is a human being like you.  How would you feel if someone harmed you instead the same way?

 

Sibling rivalry is common when you are close in age.  Count to ten before you consider pulling hairs or hit each other.

 

Never lie! Be truthful and all will work out well for you.

 

Better than a thousand days of diligent study is one day with a great teacher.  Surrounding yourself with highly educated nerds would be helpful too!

 

You do not need batteries to charge your books.  So read a lot of them and get wisdom from them instead of being a couch potato watching TV.

 

Worry chokes us - cuts off the air supply of hope and faith that are so essential for a happy, healthy and joyous life.  Enjoy nature instead.  Go outdoors to the beach or parks.  It is important to calm your mind and soul.

 

Hug a person, if you love or like him. One day he or she may not be around and you will regret it then.

 

Finally, always smile or laugh. With a healthy sense of humor, you can confront the most difficult of situations and come out unscathed.

 

Love you all forever,

Grandpa

 

"Reputation is what other people know about you. Honor is what you know about yourself". Lois McMaster Bujold